That dude you’re seeing might be OK boyfriend material, but if getting married is your thing, there are some men who you should not exchange vows with. Read on to learn who you should avoid.

THE ONE YOU THINK YOU CAN CHANGE

Whether you think he’s slightly dumb or wish he had a better paying job or want him to lose weight, settling down with a dude you don’t quite feel it for but think you can transform into a better version of himself is a setup. So much of marriage is about accepting and loving your partner unconditionally, and if you come in with a list of things you don’t love, you will always feel like you made the wrong choice.

THE ONE WHO LIKES TO CONTROL YOU

From telling you how to wear your hair to criticizing your cooking skills to shutting you down when you offer an opinion, men who think it’s their job to run your life often turn into partners who think nothing of putting their hands on you when you attempt to go your own way. Steer clear.